Thursday, October 29, 2009
Help Wanted
We've been having some conflicts with potty training. The 3daypottytraining.com website has a help desk that I've been using but the suggestions I've been getting are things that I feel are beyond Weston's understanding. Physically he is doing great. He only goes pee a handful of times every day and hasn't wet the bed at all for almost a whole week. But he is seriously lacking with communication. He has yet to tell me before he has to go. He usually just dances around and until I physically show him the potty, he forgets that that is where he needs to go. We've gone entire days without accidents, and we've had days (like yesterday) when he's had three or four. So I'm wondering what all you other moms have done to try to get your child to communicate with you before they need to go to the bathroom. I'm feeling really guilty because I really felt like Weston was ready for the potty but now I'm second guessing myself. I've tried to be really good about not forcing him and we never put him on the potty if he doesn't want to. But I still am worried that I am pushing him. Weston has always been really advanced physically but kind of slow vocally. He understands absolutely everything I say to him. But he can't say very much to me that I understand. Any suggestions on how to get him to tell me he needs to go?
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If you think he's not ready there is no problem if you want to hold off for a little bit. With my oldest we tried 3 times before she finally caught on and at that point it was very quick and within a week or so she was telling me when she needed to go. It was also another month or two before she was dry during her naps and then just six months ago or so she started going dry though the night. I don't remember how old he is but I've heard that boys are usually older when they learn to potty train, I'm thinking around 3. My friend has a little boy, I'll ask her if she has any tips. Hang in there! Potty training is so hard!
I agree with Mary. I tried training Lydia when she was a few months away from turning two. She did well but just like Weston she could tell me when she needed to go. I tried again one month after her birthday and it was great. She got it in just a few days and only had a couple of accidents. I have decided that I am waiting a little bit longer with Jaelynn as well she also can't quite tell me when she has to go either. Also we had Lydia say Go Go when she needed to go because it is pretty easy to say. Also I did put Lydia in diapers for naps until she was 2 1/2 and about four months she started staying dry at night. It is really difficult for children to stay dry when they are asleep because their bodies relax. I think it is a little bit harder for boys too. Danielle had Tyrell potty trained at twenty months or so but he had a ton more accidents then Lydia ever had. She had to really help him concentrate on remembering when he had to go. Girls can do more than one thing at once boys can't! Sorry this is probably an information overload! Goodluck!
I know what you are saying about Weston being really advanced physically but slower vocally, but understanding everything you say still. That is exactly how Gracie was.
It defiantly gets frustrating with potty training.
Gracie was 6 months younger then Luke was when I trained him. I feel like Luke was actually harder. Part of that was because I just did trail and error, and he is a boy and boys are harder, I think. One thing, I don’t think you should wait until he shows signs of readiest cause I really don’t think that makes a difference.
Sorry, it’s a hard thing that’s for sure.
I would keep at it and just try to make it as fun as possible and he will find a way to let you know. I really think he can do it.
Most important- you do what you feel is best for the both of you.
Good Luck :)
I had great luck with both of my boys as long as I provided them with motivation -- major motivation. We had at our house what my boys still call the potty jar. It is quite large and we filled it to the top with things that the particular two year old liked -- tootsie rolls, plastic bugs, little action figures, etc. We let them choose something from the jar each and every time they got something in the toilet. They loved to go potty and many times headed to the bathroom ridiculously often in hopes that they could produce something prize-worthy. After a few days, when the jar was empty, they were just in the habit of going often and paying attention to whether there was something accumulated to take care of. Jordan potty trained in 3 days and Kade in 5. I can't say I haven't bribed my children, but having potty time be a rewarding triumph saved me a lot of time, frustration, and laundry!! Good luck finding something that works for Weston!! Just be resolved to clean up pee forever and you'll be fine. All the mothers in the world with boys empathize with you.
Okay, I know I have never potty trained a child but I have lots of older siblings with kids and I'm working on a dog which is in so many ways like a kid. Take what you will.
Yes, boys are much harder to potty train than girls. My sister is still working with her 5 yr old. But observing all of my siblings, I've noticed that it usually works best when it's not a chore. My sister had great success with marbles. Every time her son went pee, he put one marble into a jar. Poo earned 2 marbles. When the jar was full, he would get the toy that he'd picked out earlier to work toward. Also another one that helps a lot is just like training a puppy. Ask every 1/2 hour, hour, 45 minutes, take them to the bathroom just to try, and say something on the way there the same every time like potty, go go, for Kami it's go potty outside... and keep weening off on the number of times you ask. After a while they will be able to recognize when they need to go potty. Like I said I'm no pro, but that's what I've observed from siblings and my dog. Haha very reliable resources here. Good luck!
Oh Jen- I remember those potty training days....not my fondest memories. I trained Tyrell at 18 months and it went well. We had a fun accidents here and there and then he went completely backwards when Jarom was born. I have some great tips that worked for me, but it is too hard to write them. Call me sometime 801-709-8488
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